New Habits That You Should Form To Be The Best Mom You Can Be
Being a mom is hard, but if you are a first-time mom, it is even harder because you have no idea what to do, what to expect, and you do not know if you are doing anything right. Being a mom is full of questions and at least in my experience, it will not change (or at least it hasn’t changed for me yet). I do one thing that I am 100% confident in and then two days later, I have to make another decision that I have no clue where to even start with making the decision.
Although it will always be full of questions, there are things that you can do to limit those questions as much as possible, become confident in the way you are doing things, and give your child the best life possible. Some of these things that you can do are new habits that you should form. Here are a few habits that I think help mom’s become the best mom that they can possibly be:
Experiment with food
When I first started writing this article, I knew that I wanted to write about healthy eating. I see so many mothers feeding their children Nutella sandwiches and Oreos for lunch every day. I get it and I don’t judge - you just want your child to eat, no matter what that is, but to some extent, you have to make sure they are getting the correct nutrition that is needed at their age. You want them to grow up healthy and strong and that starts with what you (or they) are putting into their bodies. Start experimenting with food by coming up with creative ways to include fruits and veggies into their diet. For example, sneak zucchini into “chocolate muffins,” or put beets in smoothies to make it a cool color. Be creative, have fun, and create some healthy meals!
Now, the second part to this topic is to experiment with food with your child. No matter if it is healthy or not, get them in a kitchen and put an apron on that child! It will teach them how to read and/or follow instruction, it will teach them about patience, it will teach them the valuable life skill of cooking (hopefully), and last but not least, you will have some fun and create long-lasting memories with your children. At the end of the day, that is what it is all about!
Be open to counseling
Sometimes talking to a professional counselor can be very beneficial, especially if that counselor has a personal experience with what you are going through. For example, Clinical Director and Founder of Ray of Hope Counseling Services, Lynn Thompson Umstead, is a trained mental health professional with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and a Masters of Science degree in Clinical Psychology. Due to her personal experience with infertility, she is able to provide both a level of professional and personal understanding in addition to a great deal of empathy when counseling her clients through difficult times. Ray of Hope Counseling Services provides many different types of therapy options such as child and adolescent therapy, online therapy, marriage and couples therapy, individual therapy, stress and anger management, and more. Ray of Hope Counseling Services accepts all forms of insurance and Medicaid and they have seven convenient locations in Kennesaw, GA, Alpharetta, GA, Conyers, GA, Athens, GA, Canton, GA, Peachtree City, GA, and East Cobb/Marietta, GA, so if you are in search of a counselor in Georgia, Ray of Hope Counseling Services is all over the state, in order to help you out!
So many moms (and dads) are afraid to get dirty and yell at their children when they are climbing a tree, playing in the mud, or sat down in a puddle. There are times when you need to be strict when it comes to things like this, like when you are on the way out the door to a family dinner, but overall, let them have fun and join in on that fun with them! Think back to when you were a child - some of your greatest memories were probably filled with dirt and your family, so help your child create those amazing and valuable memories, just as you hopefully had yourself when you were a child.
Teach by example
Yes, as mom’s, we do a lot of ‘bossing’ around and that’s okay, but instead of just bossing, we should also teach by example. Our children are watching every single thing we do and say and they imitate us. Because of this, we need to be a positive role model for not only our own children but also the other children around us. Show them how to act, do not just tell them - it will yield much better results, in my opinion.
Famifi says, “Listen to your child with an open mind. Be considerate of her age and understanding when you explain your point of view. Stay away from the, “I’m right and you’re wrong,” attitude. Make sure you listen, respect and understand his opinion. Come to an understanding that both can agree on and move forward. This will increase your child’s self-esteem and remove the stress of the situation from both you and your child.”